If you’re pretending to be something you’re not, she’s going to see through this quickly. If you don’t understand something she’s talking about, don’t try to pretend . In fact, it’ll probably work in your favor to straight-up say you’re not familiar with the topic.
Set aside your hangups about having to be “masculine” for a moment and be open to learning new things. It makes for some interesting and engaging conversation – you’re learning, she’s talking about something she’s passionate about and you’re not pretending to be someone else.
Don’t shy away from “real” conversation
Politics and religion are notoriously bad topics to get into on a first date. Still, that doesn’t mean you have to keep it superficial. Rather than talk about the weather today, get to know her on a more personal level.
Figure out what she’s interested in, what she does in her spare time and go from there. By doing this, not only are you getting into real conversations, you’re also going to find some common ground shared between the two of you.
Learn to project confidence
Confidence is one of the incredibly few things every human can agree is attractive. Unfortunately, it doesn’t come naturally to everyone. If you’re one of the many that struggle with this element, that’s okay but now is the time to start working on it.
Unsure where to begin? Try to identify the things that are giving you those feelings of self-doubt and work on them. Whether that’s physical (clothes, weight, etc.) or imposter syndrome (there’s no way she’s attracted to me), the first step is figuring out what the problem is.
From there, put a plan in place to improve whatever is holding you back. It’ll help you in so much more than just your dating life. And remember, no matter what, if she’s going on a date with you, she’s attracted to you. If she wasn’t, why would she be there? Remind yourself of that fact every time you feel that self-doubt creeping in.
If you need a quick confidence boost, try wearing something red or wearing a perfume you like .